To spread happiness and joy through the knowledge that I gain so that anyone who desires to change a part of their life can do so and have consistent, noticeable, and long-lasting results.
The story of who I am started when I was six years old as my mother, and I moved from Jacksonville, Florida to the small town of Blountville, Tennessee. Divorce is not easy on anyone, and now I look back and realize how strong both my parents were through this rough spot in time.
Growing up I got very interested in music, and although I had no rhythm, I joined the drumline. I loved playing the drums, and I credit band to a significant milestone in my life.
Before my freshman year of high school, I only participated in the Boy Scouts of America and middle school band which took no extra time. However, everything changed when I had daily drumline practice. This is when I really noticed the differences between my family and what, I thought, family should be.
I know that my actions as a stupid teenager made a big difference in the relationship with my parents, but growing up with two strong-minded people in my main home and two more strong-minded people at my second home made for a difficult time.
During my freshman year, I decided that I had had enough of trying to please everyone in my life. My parents were always fighting with themselves and me, and since in my mind it was my fault that I could not please everyone, my mind drifted toward seriously considering suicide. I never acted on these thoughts, but freshman year was a very dark place in my life.
After I had the ability to drive, life got better. I required less of my parent’s time driving me to and from practice, so things got slightly better. I also credit my first mentor, Dr. Cantor, and church to bringing my family and my life back to a regular page.
I graduated high school in the best physical shape of my life with a good group of friends and a great girlfriend I had met my senior year. Although I had created some bad emotional habits, I was at a real peak in my life.
I started my journey to a bachelor’s degree in Industrial Engineering at Northeast State Community College. My freshman year of college I lost a lot of good friends, but that’s how college works. I also started working quite a bit. I kept my bad studying habits from high school, but I was able to do pretty well.
I lacked in the areas of work ethic and emotional strength, and it was starting to show at work. I had a great boss, but I didn’t do the best job that I could, and my shortcomings made it harder for everyone else.
Summer came and my freshman year of college was over. I had escaped with only making 2 B’s, but I had set myself up for failure for the coming semester. I had not improved any mentally or emotionally, and I had digressed spiritually and physically.
I started my sophomore year of college, and everything hit a boiling point…..
The end of 2015 was the hardest test of my life, and I’m glad that I went through it. In the middle of the semester, I dealt with some of the toughest family times I had ever faced. I hit a low point with school, work, family, and faith. I knew there was light at the end of the tunnel, but it wasn’t an easy light to look at.
That semester is when I started turning my life around!!
I went to leave my job, and I decided to leave on a good note, so I started trying to do a good job, and miraculously my job got better, and people liked me more. That’s when I learned that if I cared about the job, then I would feel more accomplished after leaving work that day.
I also hated to read, but I was desperate to break a bad habit that was controlling my entire life; procrastination. I picked up Procrastination by Jane B. Burka and was
instantly sucked in. I never realized that there were books that would help me with life. I always thought books were just boring novels that were required for school.
Once I realized that books could help me better myself, I decided that I would learn as much as possible. I started listening to podcasts, and although I still struggled with procrastination, I was no longer digressing.
The summer of 2016 I started my journey to full maturement, and I haven’t looked back since. I am thankful for everything that has happened to get me to where I am, and I will use everything I learn to help others stay away and get out of any negative life situation.
Where I Am Now:
I am so grateful to say that I am currently at a high point emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. I am still not perfect, but I have come a long way.
I am currently fulfilling my dream of studying Industrial Engineering with a minor in Reliability and Maintainability Engineering at the University of Tennessee. I have made some great friends and really been pushed spiritually by the great people I have met at the BCM (Baptist College Ministry) on campus.
I have been able to turn my relationship with work around, and I am now an Industrial Engineering intern at the company, to be honest, I should have been fired at. I now read every single day, and I have the opportunity to lead a weekly book club. The book club has helped others grow in their personal lives, and together we have pushed each other to become the best version of ourselves.
The blog has grown through the help of new, but very dear, friends. I also have been given the ability to help other people directly. I have been able to work one-on-one with several people, and I’m so thankful that I have gotten this chance to help others. I now see the value that coaching has added to these people’s lives and mine.
The thing that I am happiest to announce is my relationship with my girlfriend, parents, and God has gotten a lot stronger. In the fall of 2016, Chelsie and I went separate ways for college, but are hearts grew stronger. We have adjusted to living apart, and have each been able to find out more about ourselves through the experience.
I have changed a lot, and so have my parents. We are stronger and the happiest we have ever been as a family. I love my parents, but I am more pleased with the changes in my relationship with God. In the first few months of 2017, I had a real breakthrough in my relationship with God, and I have had the best support anyone could ask for as I grow through this transformation. I tell you this, not to push my faith on you, but to encourage anyone who is having trouble with their faith.
I am so happy with how my life has changed direction, and each day I try to take one more step towards full maturement. Thank you for reading my story, and if you have a question or want to share your story with me so that you can get back on the right path, please message me. I’m looking forward to hearing from you, and I hope you have a great day.
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